Oct 16 2008
Dating Your Gynecologist?
I was over at Alan Gay & Straight returning an entrecard drop and I started reading one of his latest posts. He was talking about choosing doctors based on gender and sexual orientation. Whether choosing a doctor based on matching your gender or sexual orientation makes sense.
He mentioned that women go to female gynecologists. Now, boys, if this kind of talk makes you uncomfortable, consider this your warning.
I do prefer a female obgyn. I am more comfortable with another woman taking care of my female issues. I know a man is just as capable, but I feel like a woman is probably a little more sensitive and understanding. She had been there, she knows what it is like to have your feet up in those stirrups with all your business in plain view. To have a spot light on your goodies while a cold metal instrument is coming at your hooha.
I know many women do go to a female obgyn, but not all do. One of my best friends goes to a male. She has a crush on him, but she’s married and can only look and flirt innocently.
She has tried to get me to go to her doctor. Not so much because she is recommending him for how great he is at his job, but because he is single and hot. She wants me to date him.
I might be up for dating her obgyn, but I would NOT want to be his patient.
Personally, I feel that the guy I date, should not be privy to my lady bits PRIOR to the first date.
lala, everyone is different. I’ve had male and female doctors for various specialties. I’m not opposed to it if they come highly recommended (other than to date), but so far, I have had good experiences. I do know some female docs are cold and unpleasant, just like some male doctors are warm and comforting. I say whatever, works for you as long as you see someone when you need to. :)
I hear you. As flirty as I am, I would not want any pre-date peeks. Kinda ruins the mystery
alicia
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That’s strange. My experience is only second-hand, but it would be the first time in a long time that I’d even heard of a female OBGYN. I always wondered what strange stigma must be in place that women wouldn’t want another woman there.
To me it isn’t even about sexual differences, as some might think. I had a colonoscopy a couple years back, and I can tell you had it been a female I would have been precisely seven times more uncomfortable being spelunked than with the man who actually performed the procedure.
I love that you posted about this! I always had a female doctor also, until I met my current doctor. He came highly recommended, was in the same office as my primary care, who I loved, so I gave him a shot. He made me feel so comfortable and made my first pregnancy experience such a good one, that yes now I have a crush on the man. Can’t help it, he is good looking, makes me laugh, and let’s me make stupid jokes when I am nervous and laughs with me. Now, I have had to meet other doctors in the practice during my pregnancies, but he is still my favorite, even over the women, who are just as nice. Something about him just makes me feel at easy when things are happening to my body that would make anyone faint! That is the essence of a good doctor!
I’ve always gone to a female doc, but I’ve had to change around a few times until I found one that I liked. Some were not compassionate at all and were actually a little rough. I like that my current doc is very nice and makes chit chat during the awkward exam.
-Diana
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The first time I ever went to a gynecologist it was a male and I was very uncomfortable so I switched to a female Dr. and felt much better and since then I have only went to female gynecologist’s and had my 5 children delivered by women. For a regular Dr. I don’t mind seeing a male Dr.
And no I couldn’t ever date my gynecologist, male or female..lol
Sandi, that is hilarious! Asking about how you got such a close shave! Priceless!
natural, for general privileges with that area, I would agree. For medical purposes, I am more comfortable with a woman. :D
Saraf, me too. Regular doctors, either gender works for me.
LOL You really made me laugh! I totally agree with you! I can not stand for a gyn to tell me to “just relax” while he has a crow bar that he just pulled out of the freezer prying my body into! LOL When it comes to some things, women are much more gentle because they “get it”!
Thanks for the laugh!
I see a male gyno. and he is great! I was very nervous the first time I went especially b/c it was a male, but he was the only one available. I am still a virgin so that made it even worse! As soon as I met him though, I was completely at ease. He was very understanding of my situation and even brought me to his office so I wouldn’t think he was going to “come at me with a speculum”. I have not been to female gyno so I don’t really know the difference, but I think men are actually MORE understanding than women b/c they don’t know what we are going through. So far I have talked more about my period with the Dr than my mother and has been more comfortable with him. People think male gyno’s are perverts but do you really think that after seeing hundreds of the same thing, he’s going to like yours any better? They are very professional and understanding of our needs, who wouldn’t want to date one? I think they are a lot less likely to cheat on you b/c they’ve seen ‘em all!